We have already talked about oral sex for men. Now it is time to give women the spotlight: let’s talk about cunnilingus — oral sex performed on the vulva.

And we will start with a very simple question:

If you like receiving, do you also like giving? ?

Although oral sex is part of many couples’ sex lives, there are still people who avoid performing it on their partner. The reasons vary: insecurity, lack of experience, fear of “not knowing how”, concerns about smells and tastes, or simply personal preferences.

And preferences are preferences. No one is obliged to like or engage in any particular sexual act.

But there is a big difference between “I do not like it” and avoiding trying it because of mistaken ideas about the female body.

“But the vulva has a smell…”

Of course it does. Genitals have a natural scent.

A healthy vulva does not need to smell of flowers, perfume or shower gel. Its scent can even vary throughout the menstrual cycle, after exercise or due to other perfectly normal factors.

A very strong or unusual smell, especially if accompanied by itching, burning, pain or unusual discharge, deserves attention and possibly advice from a healthcare professional.

But having a natural scent? That is simply having a body.

“It is too wet”

We have news: when there is arousal, lubrication is a perfectly normal bodily response.

And rather than being seen as a problem, it can be a great sign that the body is responding to stimulation.

Not all women lubricate in the same way or to the same extent — and the amount of lubrication does not, on its own, determine the level of desire.

“It has hair”

It might. Or it might not.

Completely hairless, trimmed or natural: pubic hair is normal, and how each person chooses to groom it is a personal preference.

If it matters to either partner, talk about it. A healthy sex life is also built through these small conversations.

“I do not know how”

This is perhaps one of the easiest reasons to resolve.

Because there is no universal technique that works for all women.

Ask her.

Faster? Slower? More pressure? Less? Keep going exactly like that?

Every body responds differently, and what brought one partner to orgasm may not work in the same way for another.

In fact, one of the biggest mistakes in sex is believing there is some kind of “universal manual for female pleasure”.

There is not.

So, why can cunnilingus feel so pleasurable?

Because it allows direct stimulation of one of the most important structures for female pleasure: the clitoris.

And there is an important detail here: what we see externally is only a small part of the clitoris. Much of its structure is inside the body.

For many women, clitoral stimulation plays a fundamental role in reaching orgasm. So, when there is desire and both people enjoy the practice, oral sex can be an excellent way to explore different sensations.

And there does not need to be any rush to reach orgasm.

Pleasure is also in the journey.

Is it good for your health?

Here, it is worth separating pleasure from miracle promises.

A wanted and satisfying sexual experience can be associated with relaxation, a sense of wellbeing, greater closeness and intimacy between partners. But we do not need to turn cunnilingus into a medical treatment to acknowledge that it can be very pleasurable.

And there is another important piece of information that is often forgotten:

Oral sex can also transmit sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Herpes, HPV, gonorrhoea and syphilis, among other infections, can be transmitted through oral-genital contact. Protective barriers designed for oral sex can help reduce the risk.

The real secret to good cunnilingus?

It is not a particularly skilful tongue or a secret technique learned on the internet.

Above all, it is about:

consent + communication + attention to your partner’s reactions + a desire to give pleasure.

Do not be afraid to ask what she likes. And if you are the one receiving, do not be embarrassed to guide your partner either.

“Slower.”

“A little higher.”

“Do not stop.”

Sometimes, three words are worth more than twenty techniques.

And above all, forget the idea that anyone has to perform oral sex. Sex is not an exchange of favours or an obligation.

When both people want to, feel comfortable and communicate, then:

explore, discover and have fun. ?

Want to learn even more about oral sex? Discover our guide and explore new ways to give — and receive — pleasure.

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